46 Comments on “Ash Beckham at Ignite Boulder 20”

  1. YAY THIS TED TALK!
    — it’s what we’ve been saying all along. Thanks for listening. At last.

  2. So when I call two men holding hands ‘so gay’, I am politically correct AND
    bigoted at the same time! Society progress!

  3. You are amazing, articulate and funny. You make your point without running
    anyone over. Thank you.

  4. “Say what you mean and mean what you say” ~Ash Beckham

    I was introduced to Ash Beckham’s Ignite Boulder speech at a recent
    #workshop I attended at #UCSD and felt compelled to share it.

    She eloquently discussed how often people use the word #gay inappropriately
    and in a pejorative manner. She highlighted the importance of being
    #mindful about what you mean to convey and choosing words that accurately
    express it. She even humorously offered a flow chart to help determine
    whether or not gay is the right word for you!

    Ash Beckham at Ignite Boulder 20

    #drmaryspease #psychologist #psychology #therapist #therapy #mentalhealth

  5. Please be mindful of the words you use and say.

    I have seen a lot of reference to the word “faggot” or “fgt” on G+ lately.
    These words are offensive and not funny. Find other words, please.

  6. Just a question: why is ‘queer’ included in the LGBT thing? Maybe I’m a
    rookie here but aren’t gay/lesbians/bisexuals all ‘queer’? I don’t know so
    that’s why I’m asking! D:

  7. Words will no longer hurt you when you choose to take responsibility for
    your reactions to words. Until then you will always be a victim of your
    own ignorance and denial. Words cannot hurt you; it is your reactions to
    words that cause you harm.

  8. I watched her give this speech to a GSA forum in NJ today. Powerful and
    moving. The part that surprised me most was afterwards when I approached
    her to say “well done” I was greeted with a hug! Love is love and Ash gets
    that; so do so many others, but not enough. I’m proud to be an ally and
    happy to spread the word :-)

  9. This video was wonderful and uplifting I wish more people could see it
    especially all the people who believe that they have no prejudices toward
    others

  10. Omg I love this and I’m sharing it with my sister, and my nephew who is
    currently being picked on in school by kids calling him gay. He will make
    it through it I’m sure because if he is or isn’t he knows he has a family
    who accepts him no matter what. But he would not have to go through this if
    people wouldn’t use “gay” as a derogatory term and instead it was just as
    normal a thing as waking up in the morning. Love, Luv, <3!

  11. Ok, I’m a TED addict already…. But wow! Last night’s word was “Redskin”
    that impacts me personally…. Tonight’s word is “Gay” because I am proud
    to be called “Family” to many who are!

  12. No so sure “acceptance” is OK. Would you ever say that to your heterosexual
    friend or relative: ‘Oh, I accept you”. You wouldn’t I guess, so why say it
    to a gay?

  13. People who use the word gay in a pejorative way or in order only to harass
    others need to be made aware of others that their language use is
    inappropriate, otherwise they think it’s OK or acceptable the way they use
    language.

  14. She’s great.

    *”Not sure if you should use the word ‘gay’? Here’s a flowchart.* *What it
    often comes down to is not hate or bigotry, but laziness. Say what you mean
    and mean what you say, because the words that you choose matter.*

    *We need all hands in on this one. You are the difference makers. You are
    parents and teachers and business owners and all in all just freaking
    awesome people that have more influence than you give yourselves credit
    for.”* ~ Ash Beckham

  15. At Ignite Boulder a couple months ago, Ash Beckham closed the night with a
    very energetic presentation about the word “gay.” The video has been
    watched over 400,000 times, becoming the most watched talk from any Ignite.
    If you’re looking for inspiration on how to give any sort of talk, watch
    Ash in action.
    http://youtu.be/Gxs78C3XGok

    This week, +Stu Barwick closed the night with an equally awesome talk *Oh
    The Places They’ll Grow* about trees, complete with 20 fantastic Seussian
    slides. Follow youtube.com/igniteboulder to see his video when it comes
    out.

  16. At Ignite Boulder a couple months ago, Ash Beckham closed the night with a
    very energetic presentation about the word “gay.” The video has been
    watched over 400,000 times, becoming the most watched talk from any Ignite.
    If you’re looking for inspiration on how to give any sort of talk, watch
    Ash in action.
    http://youtu.be/Gxs78C3XGok

    This week, +Stu Barwick closed the night with an equally awesome talk *Oh
    The Places They’ll Grow* about trees, complete with 20 fantastic Seussian
    slides. Follow youtube.com/igniteboulder to see his video when it comes
    out.

  17. I guess your definition of “gay,” relating to a romantic, same-sex
    relationship, is coherent. But know that that’s not how anyone uses the
    term. And you won’t be able to talk about single gay people, unromantic gay
    sex, gay bars, gay pride, gay culture, gay slang, and a host of lovely and
    important things. And it’s not the usage Ash suggests. She talks about gay
    people, and at 2:39 she talks about inanimate objects that can correctly be
    called gay. (No, French food isn’t gay; it’s French.)

  18. The concept you’re missing out on is intent. People who continue using
    language that they know offends a particular population, insisting that the
    mutability of language absolves them from responsibility (or other such
    bullshit), are excusing themselves from practicing humanity at its most
    basic level.

  19. My ethics are skewed? Please fuckin’ explain yourself. Like, really, you
    just throw shit out there and expect me to believe you. I’m debating a
    topic, not defending myself.

  20. Just because you “remember” words doesn’t give you permission to use them
    to demean anyone. It doesn’t excuse you when you use certain words that
    hurt people; even if that’s not what you intended. You “remember” words
    like “faggot” & “nigger”, but that doesn’t mean that you should use these
    words freely because they’re part of your vocabulary. Yes, I expect people
    to respect others enough to censor themselves and take care so that their
    choice of language does not end up killing someone.

  21. Ignite Boulder is made up of short presentations by speakers, it isn’t a
    comedy club. Even if it was the correct response when a comedian tells a
    joke is to laugh. Screaming is rarely appropriate.

  22. 3:25 Fuck yeah! That guy has a Leftover Crack patch on his cut offs.
    Anti-racist, anti-homophobic punks and skinheads all day.

  23. “Oh, you’re accusing me of being a bigot for saying “hey, leave us alone
    with how we speak with each other.” ” Oh, now that you put it like
    that….Yes! You think it matters who’s watching? If you think that pointing
    out the mutability of language provides carte blanche to use language in a
    hurtful way, you’re without ethics. If I were to insist the same thing, I
    could use “spic” as a generic insult, defending myself with your poor
    excuse.

  24. “I’m debating a topic, not defending myself.” You’re doing neither. Your
    willful ignorance on the matter is becoming tedious and I’m beginning to
    think you’re either really not very bright, or perhaps a troll enjoying
    having one on. In either case, you’ve become a huge waste of time.

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